Understanding Maladaptive Overcontrol: A Radically Open DBT Perspective
There is an optimal level of how tightly you control your life. Radically Open DBT in Austin helps you find that right balance.
The Paradox of Too Much Self-Control
In our culture, self-control is generally praised and associated with success. The thinking often goes that you can’t have too much of it. Furthermore, deficits in self-control, such as substance abuse, binge eating, or financial difficulties, frequently bring people into therapy. So, is more self-control always better? According to a Radically Open DBT therapist in Austin, the answer is a nuanced "not so fast."
The Link Between Excessive Self-Control and Mental Health
Recently, researchers have explored whether a person can indeed have too much self-control. In his seminal work, Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy: Theory and Practice, Thomas Lynch posits that excessive self-control can be just as problematic as insufficient self-control. This surplus of self-control is linked to a distinct set of challenges, including chronic and protracted depression, anorexia nervosa, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. It turns out that even a seemingly positive trait can become detrimental in excess.
The "Fine" Facade of Overcontrol
In contrast to individuals who exhibit undercontrolled behaviors, those with maladaptive overcontrol are more likely to appear "fine" and verbally confirm this state, despite experiencing significant internal distress. Often, their suffering remains invisible to those around them. These individuals tend to approach life with seriousness, hold high standards for themselves and others, and make considerable sacrifices to achieve their goals. While you might initially think, "What's wrong with that?", it's important to recognize that this can become problematic. While overcontrolled individuals contribute significantly to society and are often responsible for great achievements, they frequently struggle to connect with others and form intimate relationships. Emotional loneliness is another way to describe the consequences of maladaptive overcontrol. What distinguishes Radically Open Dialectical Behavioral Therapy from other therapeutic approaches is its specific focus on how individuals present themselves and interact in social situations.
Four Key Struggle Points of Maladaptive Overcontrol
Lynch identifies four core areas of difficulty associated with maladaptive overcontrol. You might find yourself identifying with all or only some of these:
1) Low Receptivity and Openness
Poor response to disconfirming feedback
Avoidance of unplanned situations
High suspiciousness
Tendency to perceive threats easily
2) Low Flexibility
A compulsive need for structure and order
Hyperperfectionism
Rigidity about following rules
High certainty that there is a "right" way to do everything
3) Perceived Inhibited Emotional Expression and Low Emotional Awareness
Remaining emotionally flat in response to a compliment or a joke
Smiling even when experiencing extreme distress
Low awareness of bodily sensations
Difficulty being impressed
4) Low Social Connectedness
Relationships that tend to be distant and aloof
Frequent feelings of bitterness
High levels of social comparison
RO-DBT in Austin: Finding Balance, Not Eliminating Control
Radically Open DBT in Austin helps the lonely and isolated feel a part of a community.
It's crucial to understand that Radically Open DBT does not aim to eliminate all overcontrol from your life. Instead, the goal is to identify the areas where your self-control serves you well and the areas where it hinders your well-being. Through RO-DBT, we work to retain what is beneficial and let go of what is not. If you resonate with the challenges of maladaptive overcontrol, consider exploring how Radically Open DBT can help you find greater balance and connection in your life. Go here to start the process of scheduling a free 15-minute phone consultation.